Oh Single Guy….It’s posts like this that make me concerned for your ultimate singlehood and if you’ll remain in that state for ever and always. Single Guy thinks his post is about lies that girls tell, but I’m going to tell you it’s really about how picky and crazy he is. I will be honest, I considered not posting this because I feel for this girl. Single Guy says her lie was a deal breaker, but with the shit I pull, I could see myself in this girl who I think was just trying to impress SG. Form your own opinion.
Do you agree with me or SG on this one?
My best muse is myself. By this I mean inspiration comes from the most random instances and experiences in my life, thoughts of the past and the current, today I will talk about one in particular.
But first I have a few asides:
- This weekend at PSU was absolutely incredible, for those of you that I saw and who now know my true identity great seeing you. The weather was amazing and with so many great friends, it is awesome to know that when you haven’t seen someone in 5 years that you can hang out again, share stories and not skip a beat.
- I think I fell in love with the hoodie, stretch pants and UGG’s look this weekend. If any of you girls are going to hang out with a guy and plan to just lay around and watch movies, I HIGHLY recommend this look (MODG note: Totally weird aside SG, next will you be advocating Juicy sweatsuits?). I was with quite a few guys this weekend and we were all HUGE fans. Me I am a huge fan of Lululemon, if you don’t own any GET SOME! While they are pretty expensive for some Yoga pants they are the absolute most comfortable pants in the world and they make your backside look incredible, but don’t take my word for it go check them out.
- Oh and ladies, get your man some for Christmas I swear he will thank you a thousand times over, I know I would.
So on to my story. Now going on dates and meeting people, everyone lies. Okay maybe you don’t lie but I guarantee you stretch the truth or leave out a detail here and there. I am of the opinion that if I have to lie to someone to keep them interested then I have no business speaking to that person. So I put it out there and should it work it will work, if it doesn’t, well then hopefully dinner was delicious.
So first date, I decide to go get sushi with this girl. Mind you these were pre-Facebook days so I did not get the chance to check the girl out prior to our date to make sure I wasn’t completely belligerent and picked up a man child. Nor did I know her life story and all the mutual friends that we share and therefore what “dirt” I should be prepared to speak to. So I had to go with it, fingers crossed and great she was attractive and seemed like a cool girl. We go to a place close by and the night is going quite well. You know standard, order a bottle of wine, the waiter checks in three or four times before you even look at the menu because you are sharing some good conversation. Well after a few glasses of wine we order some standard rolls and edamame.
[By the way, it is ALWAYS bold for me to eat sushi on a first, second or even third date because if the fish isn’t fresh um yeah the sushi and I DO NOT hang out. Picture that episode of Sex and the City when Miranda is all distraught because that guy wont come up to her place and she thinks he's not in to her when in actuality his stomach is about to explode…sorry probably too much information] (MODG note: Yet again my disclaimer that I am sure that SG is in fact a straight man.)
As we were ordering it was quite obvious that the girl was not well versed in sushi (i.e. did not know what unagi was and the like). I let it pass and try to school her on the ways of sushi. When we order edamame I asked her if she liked it and she responded with “Yes I will definitely eat some edamame.” So here is where the lie comes in to play. The edamame comes and I literally ask her again if she has had edamame and she responds with another yes. So my chivalrous ways come in to play and I obviously let her eat first. She picks up a soy bean and no BS begins to chew on the whole thing, shell and all. I immediately think to myself, you have got to be kidding me! Did this girl just lie about eating edamame because she didn’t want to look stupid in front of me; low and behold she looks TWICE as dumb now. So what do I do? Naturally I try to secretly pull the soy beans out and lay down the shell without her noticing as she continues to munch on these soy beans. Okay well I am not that cruel and after about three or four I let her in on the secret ways of eating edamame but honestly after that I wanted to ask for the check. (MODG note: This is where SG loses me, this poor girl could have been from like Kenalalinatucky and never even seen edamame before…that doesn’t make her bad I think she was just trying to impress SG and was maybe intimidated. Also I would not know about the unagi either and I’m pretty awesome in general)
So naturally what is my immediate thought, if she lied to me about eating edamame I wonder if she is married with four kids? Or maybe she has a penis? What? Anyway, if you are going to lie about something at least make it worthwhile. Because in all likelihood if you get caught you are going to look stupid and whatever relationship you had with that guy or girl will be over, but at least you lied about something that were ashamed of or did not want other people to know. But lying about eating a particular type of food, I mean honestly COME ON NOW. Quite frankly I would have rather the girl said she had never had edamame because then I would have known that I introduced her to something new and when a girl is willing to be exploratory I think that is awesome. So DON’T LIE unless it is worth it, Edamame is NOT! (MODG note: What I think SG really was turned off by was her lack of confidence to admit something as silly as her lack of sushi knowledge and not that it was an actual lie)
What do you think? Was Single Guy right to end it then and there or was he too hard on her?
PS. Man I’m glad I’m not single anymore.
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RIDICULOUS! Fist that she lied and second that he cared. I am a sushi eater, but don't know what they are called….I'm sure that poor girl wanted to crawl under the table with embarrassment. I feel sorry for her!
haha aww poor girl, I think it's awkward that she lied, but I don't necessarily think that means she's secretly a murdered/married/psycho in general. If that was the ONLY issue, I'd take her out again and test the waters one more time…but that's just me. I lied last week and told a guy I'd be out of town the rest of the weekends for the entire month….but that's because he made me want to stab myself in the eye..
Let's see if I can remember back that far…when I was young and intimidated by men that I wanted to impress.
Nope, I can't think that far back that I'd even agree to eat sushi in the first place. He lost me at fish (cooked or raw).
I'm a Texas girl, give me a side of a cow.
The guy has control-freak serial killer written all over him.
Yeah, reading this post again I realize that I look pretty much like a HUGE dick but as Amanda said I am picky.
Texas girl…I am headed to Austin on Sunday for a few days, have any good recommendations on places to eat or go out? I am staying in downtown Austin!
First, I love this blog. Second this takes picky to a whole new level (although, even if Facebook were around, I don't think SG would have figured this out from profile stalking)! SG, is your MO to stay single forever because it seems like none of these nice girls have made it past a second date with you. Please give those of us who are tied down a good story of ones who made the cut:)
I really never got past the Ugg boot, leggings, and sweatshirt endorsement Swap Reeboks for Uggs and what is this, 1991?
Otherwise, I tend to agree with him but I think I would have given her a second chance. On second thought we do differ on one point. Instead of politely teaching her how to eat correctly I would have been a total asshole and called her out. And this is why I'm still single.
Usually I agree with SG and often wonder why he is still single and if he will marry me.
…but this was a little too much. I understand everything now.
I'm on your side here. That is a silly reason to end it. This is making my husband look so much better to me. I'm fairly certain that I could never date again. I wasn't good at it when I was young and cute.
OUCH Single Guy. You're struggling today.
Ok, SG, I deleted my original comment after re-reading your post. So you did try to school her on sushi, but I still think your a tough date. And I do believe you tend to set these dates up for failure. Picky attitudes will do that to you though.
Love the feedback. Okay so honestly if the girl were gorgeous I probably would have let this slide. DAMMIT I hate when the truth comes out and I look shallow.
I will have to do better next week. This hurts!
WOW. and there you have it.
I think it is a stupid thing to lie about. haha. I actually had Edamame for the first time on a group date (long time ago). I was the only one who had never had it. I said I never had it, and they showed me how to eat it. The End.
When it comes to food…the only time I lied on a date (about food)is when I said I had not eaten since lunch, but in reality, I ate dinner right before we even met up to go to dinner!:)) What? Sometimes when I am nervous, I eat…and maybe I didnt want to look like Little Miss Piggy ON the date!
So hot chicks can lie all they want and everyone else is thrown under the bus???
TYPICAL! Haha
I think you were a little too hard on her, SG. She might have just been trying to impress you, or maybe she honestly thought it was something else and when the little soybeans came out, she was all, “Oh sh*t sh*t! What are these?!” but then tried to play it cool. Yes, she shouldn't have pretended to know what it was if she didn't, but ehhh, there are worse things to lie about. Now, if she had touted herself as the biggest sushi eater in the world, then I can see your point. But if she just mentioned that she likes sushi, it is entirely possible that she's never had edamame before but didn't want to seem like an idiot by telling you so. That tactic kind of backfired on her, but it's kinda overkill to nix her just because of that, no?
HA! who's the liar now! yeah I'm assuming that if she were hot you would have probably showed her an explicit way of getting the soy beans out of the shell, lol. Boys will be boys!
I think you were a little hard on her on one hand- on the other- that was a pretty stupid lie. But what if that's the way that she really eats edamame? (that would be disturbing too)
Anyhow- I live in Austin- you'll be downtown? For some good food- check out the Blemont, Trulucks, Saba, or Parkside- for live music- Momo's, Mean Eyed Cat, and Cedar Street. Have fun!
SG – you had me until your comment! It always makes me wonder what else someone is lying about if they lie about insignificant things. I support picky – knowing what you want and what works for you in a relationship. I don't support shallow!
Ah that poor girl. I feel really sorry for her.
I'm with you MODG- I think SG was turned off by the fact that she wasn't confident enough to admit that she didn't know alot about sushi and not so much the fact that she lied.
I'm kind of with SG on this one. Personally, I wouldn't have eaten sushi on a first date because I don't know much about it. I do not want to eat strange foods I'm not used to in front of someone I don't know. I happen to know what unagi is, but only because an entire episode of Friends was dedicated to it. I wouldn't have lied. I'm a picky eater so that's disclosed early on.
That woman does not come across as a liar. She's just a bit insecure and trying to be polite on a first date. All we know is his side of the story. Maybe he was all in her face with his love of Sushi and she didn't feel like admitting that she wasn't as cool.
That woman does not come across as a liar. She's just a bit insecure and trying to be polite on a first date. All we know is his side of the story. Maybe he was all in her face with his love of Sushi and she didn't feel like admitting that she wasn't as cool.
I'm sorta with SG on this one. It's just a dumb thing to lie about and in the end it only made her look silly. I'm 100% for honestly – even if it embarasses you. And besides, isn't the point of dating someone to get to know them, including all their quirks? And like he said if she was lying about this, what else would she lie about? It just hardly seems like a lie worth telling. Plus, I totally stopped dating someone after I told him a really quirky story about myself and he wasn't receptive to it. Hey, I'm weird….if you don't embrace it now…you certainly won't later!!
And SG may be picky and a little shallow…but at least he isn't leading anyone on.
P.S. So weird that SG was promoting Lululemon in this post…just was pursuading my neighbor this morning to buy some gear there.
I'm sorta with SG on this one. It's just a dumb thing to lie about and in the end it only made her look silly. I'm 100% for honestly – even if it embarasses you. And besides, isn't the point of dating someone to get to know them, including all their quirks? And like he said if she was lying about this, what else would she lie about? It just hardly seems like a lie worth telling. Plus, I totally stopped dating someone after I told him a really quirky story about myself and he wasn't receptive to it. Hey, I'm weird….if you don't embrace it now…you certainly won't later!!
And SG may be picky and a little shallow…but at least he isn't leading anyone on.
P.S. So weird that SG was promoting Lululemon in this post…just was pursuading my neighbor this morning to buy some gear there.
What did I tell you all about the crazy exes rearing their head?
BRING IT.
Dear SG,
I am almost always on your side (remember the granny pants discussion???), but you lost me on this one.
Let's start at the beginning…girls in hoodies, stretch pants & Uggs? Do you also like to hang out in the Philly airport? “…get your man some for Christmas I swear he will thank you a thousand times over, I know I would.” Please stop. I would hope my “man” would disown me for getting him some “DownDawg” or “KungFu” pants. This does nothing to help your credibility (and really undermines your whole “wearing granny panties is lazy” argument as going in public like this is the ultimate in lazy).
Don't be an asshole. What does Facebook have to do with it? Were you going to add her as a friend to see if she had any sushi photos?
Well-versed in sushi? Is this one of your requirements? Lame. Unagi? I have no idea what that is and I have a lot of sushi experience (as a matter of fact I even had edamame for lunch yesterday and sushi on Saturday night and I even once had a roll made with Doritos).
While I appreciate the face that you expect a date to be honest with you, even I can see that it is a bit of a stretch to start second guessing her marital status and whether or not she has a dick. Yes, you should be honest on a date. To me, if you are going to lie about something worthwhile, you're out of there. I have no interest in you. But lying about eating some random Japanese appetizer? Probably not the end of the world.
Hugs,
Sarah
P. S. I don't care that you don't want to date her for her looks (I have not dated people because of attractiveness), but don't be a jerk and claim it was for lying about sushi. That's retarded. Seriously.
I'll help him work on his game =)
Haha…poor girl!!! It's true though. If she was lying about something SOOO little…what would keep her from hiding something else? {Absolutely nothing i tell ya} Let the truth set you free i say. Shout it from the raptures…because dating is hard enough as it is. If you can't be yourself, you're NEVER going to find your mate. Open as a book is my motto…you want to know something i'll tell ya. Wish more people were like this!!!
Really T? Because I would never call a real friend shallow. Or ask them to come up with an “original thought.” That to me is a little liberal. And I'm VERY liberal.
Constructive criticism is one thing, but I think you were aiming below the belt.
Dear T,
Is he picky & shallow or are you ugly?
Do you not know how to eat edamame either? Shame.
Of course you heart Lululemon, too.
Something tells me you don't fit the “hot, smart, confident, successful women” bill. Even if you did, your bitterness and anger is unbecoming.
Your comment just feels a bit one-sided to me. Perhaps you were the one not living up to your potential? Maybe it was your granny panties? Or did his friends think you were angry too?
I would set SG up with one of my friends, but then again, I don't hang out with fatties.
Hugs,
sarah
Hahaha, T! You may have spoken too soon to say you're a “friend”…who says “I think SG has great potential but potential is just that – possible, as opposed to actual. He falls seriously short on the actual part.” I would barely say that about my acquaintances let alone, friends. Oh, and if you're such a great friend, why would you be upset that he's listening to you? Yet again quoting your marvelous contradictory statement: “That and he's obsessed with what his friends think. How about some original thought there, buddy?”
I, for one, actually AM SG's friend and know that he has a big heart a big *#*$, as I'm sure you do, too. However, I actually am on SG's side and if I could find a girl who isn't batshit crazy (like you) for him to date, I would definitely set him up…as FRIENDS do.
For those of you confused, T deleted her comment. She posted something pretty nasty about SG as a bitter ex. I apologize. However I am considering reposting for entertainment value.
Thoughts?
I'm a bit on the fence with this one. I understand your point SG about the lie…what's the big deal about not having tried a certain food before? I wouldn't have lied about that – but that's just not how I roll anyway. However, I would've seen how the rest of the date went. If the remainder of the evening was peppered with lame attempts to impress you SG instead of just being confident in who she is then I probably would've written it off too. BUT if that was an isolated incident then a second date would've been in order. You still may have written her off but at least you would know…
Please repost. IMMEDIATELY.
I vote repost!
ok you asked for it
T: First, all SG ever does is lead women on. He's also picky and shallow.
Second, find a new first date restaurant. Oya's sushi happy hour clearly isn't working out for you.
Third, I heart Lululemon, too.
Fourth, SG is infinitely picky and apparently a glutton for punishment. He has dated a ridiculous number of hot, smart, confident, successful women that he decides isn't “The One” for some silly reason, such as not knowing how to eat edamame. Absurd.
I think SG has great potential but potential is just that – possible, as opposed to actual. He falls seriously short on the actual part. That and he's obsessed with what his friends think. How about some original thought there, buddy?
Oh, and fifth, I would never, EVER set SG up with someone I know. Unless maybe she was my worst enemy.
Kisses, huney.
followed by:
T: whoa, that's a little liberal there, MODG. i used to be SG's biggest cheerleader. i think he's one of the greatest people to be friends with (good looking, charming, super fun, etc.) just not anything more than friends.
and i was merely suggesting he work on his game a little.
I say POST IT!!! It can't damage his reputation here any more than what he already says. And i'm sure he'll love to give feedback on it
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Thank you for reposting MODG. My open letter made no sense once she chickened out and deleted.
OUCh!!! I hope she has a box of bandaids for her wounds.
Ok SG…I am going to be honest here. I do feel like there are a lot of girls who would pretend to know what something was to impress a date. But…had I been in your situation it might have been a deal breaker too. As a girl…I feel bad for her but I think lying about that kind of thing is annoying. But people make mistakes…maybe she was just confused so deal breaker might be a little harsh.
If everything about her was awesome I hope you would have let that slide.
Now onto the leggings/luluemon conversation…that is just weird. Seriously? Uggs, leggings and a hoodie…I barf when people wear that in public because normally the ones that do don't have the body for it. I am all about leggings but not with a hoodie…unless I am asleep.
And I think my “man” would be so pissed if I spent 100 bucks on sweatpants and told him it was his Christmas present.
woah…that was a long comment…sorry people!
holy crap! see what i miss when i get too busy at work to check up on MODG! damn work always gets in the way of important things…
but anywho…i'm still a little in shock they even make lululemon for men that isn't skin tight. i've shopped online for me, but it never occurred to me to look there for something for the man- but i agree with Cee- my man would rather i spend that 100 on some good food. so i thank SG for teaching me something new today. actually- i will admit, he taught me two things, because i'm on my way to google unagi.
i also think that he wouldn't have had a second date with her no matter what…i think if it weren't this whole lie thing, he would've found something else wrong. no offense SG- she just clearly wasn't “the one”
I would like a rebuttal from SG please! Where'd he go?
This guy is ridiculous. Comparing edamame lies, to her perhaps having a husband and kids.
He is LOOKING for reasons to not like her. Ridiculous!
PS, I LOVE Lululemon, I am from Canada and fast fact of the day – that is where these fine articles of clothing are from. I am traveling home today and my entire outfit is Lulu… LOVE it!
I think this is hilarious. i would totally ditch a guy who lied about something so dumb. But I do agree is the lack of confidence that matters. I mean when you are awesome and know it, who cares if you can't eat edamame. I had a friend who couldn't even say it right.
SG,
I am taking the side of the edemame shell eater on this one, but this is not the reason I am writing. I saw you were going to Austin soon. This is where I live, and I am here to give you some suggestions on food, bars, etc…
Fave restaurants: Lambert's Barbecue on W. 2nd. , Moonshine Patio Bar and Grille on Red River St. Guero's on S. Congress Ave. 219 West on w. 4th St.
Fave bars: Just head to the W. 6th Street are (not the actual central 6th St. unless you are looking for belligerent under age drunk chicks.) There are a bunch of cool bars in the W. 6th area…. J Black's, Annie's West, The Ranch, Molotov, Belmont, Little Woodrows. Check it out, and have fun!! It's an awesome city. And bring back some good SG stories for us. PS… Follow our blog.
SG,
I am taking the side of the edemame shell eater on this one, but this is not the reason I am writing. I saw you were going to Austin soon. This is where I live, and I am here to give you some suggestions on food, bars, etc…
Fave restaurants: Lambert's Barbecue on W. 2nd. , Moonshine Patio Bar and Grille on Red River St. Guero's on S. Congress Ave. 219 West on w. 4th St.
Fave bars: Just head to the W. 6th Street are (not the actual central 6th St. unless you are looking for belligerent under age drunk chicks.) There are a bunch of cool bars in the W. 6th area…. J Black's, Annie's West, The Ranch, Molotov, Belmont, Little Woodrows. Check it out, and have fun!! It's an awesome city. And bring back some good SG stories for us. PS… Follow our blog.
So my thoughts.
1. T you have further enforced why I care so much about my friends opinions, did you not just see all the backing I got? I am deep in the streetz!
2. You were wrong, it was not Oya.
3. I ended things with T on a very rough note but I still do not believe that gives her the right to lay in to me and make those remarks.
4. I will not write a retort to her comments. I think enough has been said, and just for the record this is why I rarely discuss any current dating experiences.
5. Lululemon for Men is absolutely incredible, and no it is not tight I refused to wear ankle biting anything and that includes jeans and any form of pants. I lived in Vancouver and brought it back to DC before it came to the states. ALL my guy friends wear it like crazy now and absolutely love it. Trust me on this.
T – I hope you are not mad but you started it, sorry that it had to get to this point. Take care and good luck.
First of all, the above comments are from us. You're welcome.
Secondly, thanks for starting an all out skype battle between the 2 of us.
Me: “I think its really retarded that this girl ate the shell. I would be completely embarrassed. Just say you never had it before. Done. “
Here's the other side: “Maybe she did have it before and ate the shell.”
Me: “No, thats so retarded.”
Oh ok SG…I take some of my comment back. I thought you were telling us to buy lululemon to wear for the men…I didn't know you were just saying to buy the mens version. That makes a bit more sense.
I think too hard on her- she was clearly nervous/trying to impress~
1. I agree with MODG on the lack 'o confidence aspect. Any girl comfortable in her own skin would just own up to not knowing about edamame. However, I don't think this makes her a serial killer.
2. MODG, thanks for the re-post. I was busy today and missed it the first time. Way better with all the info.
3. Well played, SG. Way to be the mature adult.
4. Thanks for the Austin info people. The bf and I are headed there in two weeks- can't wait!
I have had edamame PLENTY of times. Only, it's always been deshelled first. I had NO CLUE it came in a shell, until I finally saw it for sale in the grocery freezer. I bought some and boy was I PISSED when I opened the package and they were still in the pods. WTF? I've never made them myself again. But maybe the girl wasn't lying when she said she'd eaten them, but just didn't know they could come still in the pod.
I once stopped seeing a guy because he lied about his age, but I certainly think his age is more important than lying about eating a certain type of food before. In this instance, I do think SG was a little too harsh on the girl and maybe should have given her another chance.
Much too harsh of a judgment. She was embarrassed. She should have fessed up but that was not a make or break moment.