September 2010

September 30, 2010

DUDES.

Everyone take a deep relaxing hypnobreath and RELAX.

I came HOME from work to post this because unlike Prep-Gate 2010, I could not moderate at work. I take responsibility but this has gone a little far.

Let’s rewind.

50 thousand people email me to ask me to post about my wedding. Ok, fine. I’m going to show you for yourself why I don’t post about my wedding (if that point isn’t clear by now, put down the booz). I post the side by side pictures. I do not bash the bride. I ask you not to bash the bride. I don’t even draw little animal faces in the pictures or lightning bolts. It is what it is and you make what you want of it. I am honestly over this whole thing because it happened so long ago. I’m just sharing it with you now though because I was asked. So I really didn’t expect the rage.

I should have known better but the comments did get out of hand. And that is why I complied and took her pictures down.

This is where things get dicey. I’ll be honest, despite this happening 2 years ago and despite me being over it, her emails set me off a little. I’m human. And I really do think of you all as friends who I talk to every day (totally material for my therapist) so I really didn’t think twice about sharing these emails. Because I did what the girl wanted and took her pictures down, but I couldn’t leave you all high and dry without knowing why I did that and what went down. I’m about the honesty and the owning yourself and owning your mistakes and not taking yourself too seriously. I didn’t think this bride would take this so seriously, I didn’t think you all would take this so seriously and then before I know it, I’M taking it seriously.

So this is where we end. I’m not deleting any posts. But I am stopping the comments.

I take full responsibility for how far this went and I’m sorry to anyone with ruffled panties. And now we can end this dejavu that was pretty much the equivalent of preppy war.

And to lighten the mood and bring back the MODG sparkle. I present you with the best thing of my week and my life:

I give this episode 5 bright shining stars in the sky and 78 beating hearts in the chest of a unicorn. Every time I see a britney dance number, my skin flies off of my body from the vast amount of chills all over it. Something about Britney is super magic and I wish I could bottle it and drink it 3 times a day. The only thing stopping me from jumping out of the couch and attempting the slave for you dance was the plankton belly. Although that would be video worthy. And pizza with ranch dressing? Yes Britney. Yes. I love you. Be on tv shows all the time. Every tv show should have a Britney episode. In fact, do it exactly like Glee did. It’s cool to copy things.

LOVE you,

MODG

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September 30, 2010

Whose Wedding is it Anyway? Part 2. The drama continues. But I’m not dead (yet).

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So you may have heard. The bride with my wedding emailed me. Like early in the morning. She was uncomfortable with her pictures on the internet. I debated posting these emails for you, but I’m trying in my life to be like 10% a bigger person. Britney says I should be stronger than yesterday. So I will paraphrase for you what went down on Wedding Wednesday. Also this may seem very “Twin Peaks” to those of you who were around for the preppy girl drama.

Rock and roll bitches. MY WEDDING 4 EVAH.

8:00am, post goes up

8:01am, comments start pouring in from all of you. And even though I asked you not to bash her, many of you did. Whatever I can’t control the internet. I tried twice. It’s fine.

10:59am, Bride emails me. It goes something like this:

While I do respect that you asked your followers to not bash me, I think you knew they would. My wedding pictures are not posted on the internet for anyone to see except for Laura Novak’s blog and possibly another vendor I used and I’m a private person and not comfortable with this. I’m glad you partially covered my face, but I would honestly appreciate it if you removed the pictures from your post. I am upset by these comments saying that I’m a stalker. I had my dress, date, venue, and 2 photographers narrowed down before I even saw pictures of your wedding. I thought your wedding was beautiful and clearly I used a lot of your ideas. I wasn’t trying to do that in a negative way though. I’m asking you to be respectful of my privacy and please at least remove my pictures.

I hope this post did not come off as rude because that’s not what I was going for.

11:02, MODG reacts in her head to email:

While the email was very respectful and nice, this definitely rubs me slightly the wrong way and I can’t shake. Should I let it go? What would Britney do? I don’t care.

11:03 MODG emails bride back, also paraphrased

With all due respect, you completely 100% copied my entire wedding from start to finish even down to my jewelry, flowers, fur, vendors, cake, everything. I put so much time and effort into my wedding that to see something like this was borderline disturbing. You managed to find me very quickly when your pictures were on the internet but you couldn’t find me to ask me if you could completely copy my entire wedding? With that being said, I will honor your request and take the post down because like I said in the post, my intent was not to bash you. Really it wasn’t. But you had to know that I would find out and you had to know that I would think this was a little crazy.

11:04-11:57 Check email obsessively to see if she responds. Check in at home to make sure my house has not been burned down.

11:58, bride responds (paraphrased)

Thank you for removing the pics. I’m not denying I copied your wedding. And as for crediting you for your ideas, I did. I’m not in any magazines to credit your ideas publicly, and I would never try to be. You can’t see in the pics posted, but I did different things like using a chandelier theme, and throwing in pink, and doing different bride/ bridesmaids bouquets and a few floral centerpieces, etc because I didn’t want to make it EXACTLY like yours. I even told the lighting guy to use a different color so my pictures would not be the same. I wasn’t trying to offend you or be disrespectful and I’m sorry if you thought that. Since I didn’t plan on posting pics of my wedding anywhere, I didn’t think anyone would see these except for us and family.

11:59, MODG Thoughts:

Still a very nice and respectful email. Although I’d respect her more if she really just owned up to it and called it like it was. We could have laughed about it and moved on. People who take themselves so seriously make me itchy. Also my friends have me all worked up over this now as I have shared this exchange with them. Obviously I’m responding

12:02 MODG responds (paraphrased)

Honestly, what bothered me most wasn’t that you used the same florist and concept or the same lighting vendor or the same photographer but was that you tried to look exactly like me. And honestly, I mean the details couldn’t get much more exact. A shade of lighting or a bridesmaid dress doesn’t make a huge difference. Because if my guests were to see your pictures (and they did) this is equally embarrassing for me. They don’t know whose wedding was first. It’s in the past and it’s fine now, and I didn’t expect to have this conversation. But please understand when you email me claiming that I am causing you hardship by posting your pictures, realize that there would be no pictures or post if you hadn’t taken my wedding in the first place. I am simply reacting to something pretty crazy that was already on the internet. Like I said, the post will come down tonight. And that’s the end of this.

And that was the end of that as I didn’t hear back from her. And you can see that I did honor her request to take down her pictures because my intent is not to hurt someone. But your wedding day is supposed to be the most “special” day of your life. And when you see something like this that sort of special becomes a broke down pleather fake Lous Vuitton on Canal Street. And maybe it’s immature of me to drag this out and point the finger and act 8 years old and stomp my feet and say MINE MINE MINE. But when I say I worked hard on my wedding, I WORKED HARD. And I guess I wanted a little credit. I’m human. And Asian.

And yet again, this is why I do not discuss my wedding. Nothing good ever comes of it. If you want to talk about my wedding, send me 5 bucks and your phone number.

Hearts and tulle,

MODG

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September 29, 2010

Once and for all you will now understand why I do not discuss my wedding. UPDATED

Pin it*Warning up front… this post is going to come across a little “mean girls” of me. But I feel like it’s the only way to get you to understand why I black balled myself from discussing my own wedding forever and ever. MANY of you have asked me to post about it. I feel [...]

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September 28, 2010

If You Seek Amy. Or MODG… But I’m trying to make a point here while being clever and witty.

Pin itHello, You’ve reached my out of office message. I will be unavailable today, September 28th, returning tomorrow, Wednesday September 29th. I will have limited access to email during this time. In the event of an emergency you can find me rocking back and forth in a corner counting down the seconds until Britney Spears [...]

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September 27, 2010

Coming to terms with the M word. (not masturbation, sorry folks.)

Pin itI may piss off a lot of people today. But that’s ok. I do that. Let’s start with a story. This weekend I was speaking to some hotsy tatsy asian hair stylist who was giving me hair advice (asian to asian). She was like the coolest girl ever. She took her hair out of [...]

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